The hearing of the suit seeking the dissolution of the six-year-old marriage of Nollywood actor, Kalu Ikeagwu, and his estranged wife, Ijeoma, began at an Ikeja High Court today May 30 with the actor telling the court how Ijeoma allegedly deserted their matrimonial home and denied him sex after welcoming their son.
While being interrogated by the respondent’s counsel, Mrs S.I. Amedu, Ikeagwu told the court that his wife packed out of their matrimonial home and sent him a mail that she was on her way to her father’s house in Enugu.
”I got back home from a trip on August 4, 2021 to find out that my wife had left our matrimonial home with the children to an undisclosed location. I tried to contact her when I got to the house and found it empty. I sent her an email on that same day and she replied that she had gone to her father’s house in Enugu.
She told me she was at her father’s place in Enugu and four days later, I saw her at the airport in Lagos, heading to God knows where. In the mail she sent, she said she was In Enugu.”
The actor who is also seeking full custody of his three-year-old son and ten-year-old step-daughter, also debunked the claim that he sent his wife and kids out of the house and failed to provide for their upkeep.
The actor further told the court that his wife denied him sex and also poured water on him while he was asleep. The petitioner also said he was not aware that his wife lost a pregnancy due to a Sexually Transmitted Infection while they were together.
“After the birth of our son, she has refused to have sex with me. I was not aware she lost the pregnancy due to an infection as I did not give her any infection. Till date, I have not seen any report attached to a document that she lost a baby through STD. Though I did not ask her why she lost the baby.”he told the court
Ikeagwu said he stopped sending money to the children for upkeep and maintenance because his wife denied him being the father to his step-daughter. He added that this was after she accused him of attempting to sleep with the child and she failed to acknowledge the money he sent to her.
“The last time I sent money to them was in November 2021. I stopped sending money because my wife denied me being a father to my step-daughter and she also accused me of wanting to sleep with her,” the actor said
On why he was seeking custody of his step -daughter whom he had earlier sought for revocation of guardianship, the actor said he had information that his wife wanted to relocate the children.
“I want custody of the two children. The reason I sought for revocation was because my wife had turned my step-daughter against me and at that point, I got a hint that she wanted to fly the children abroad. I have never been married to any woman before I got married to my wife. I married her after she had her daughter.
I earlier said the issue of revocation was because I felt she wanted to use me. My Lord, look at the precedence on how I have treated the girl from the very beginning.
I am an actor by profession and I travel to locations within and outside Nigeria in which I can spend five days to one month.
At the moment, it may be difficult but I am thinking about the future when I remarry and get a stable wife.”
The presiding judge, Justice Christopher Balogun, had earlier ordered the children to play with their father in court and ordered the respondent to present the receipts of the tuition fees of the children in court.
“According to the Child’s Right Act, you can not deny the children the best education even if you’re quarreling with your wife. If I should as a judgment grant you a divorce, and if your wife is in Enugu and you stay in Lagos, why should I give the custody of a 10-year-old girl to you while her mother is alive?
The Supreme Court ruled that it is not the wealth of a father that the children of that age need, they need the care and attention of their biological mother.
The only reason the girl child should not be in the custody of the mother is if the mother is mentally derailed or the issue of infidelity is involved.
Assuming the girl starts her monthly period, you as a father do not know what to do. You will be scared of the blood. A female girl is delicate. Your own case is worse because an accusation has been leveled against you.”
The judge adjourned the case until June 23 for continuation of hearing
5he judge was right and wrong in some aspects. A man can take care of a girl child. My friend took.care of his 2 daughters when his wife absconded. He buys pads for them and even shaving sticks. We won our custody case and he was given full custody of the 3 kids aged 9, 10 and 14. What his lawyer should pray for is joint custody of his son; he should forget about the step daughter for now. Also an order restricting the wife from travelling abroad with the son unless his express remission is granted.